24 Secrets to a Long and Happy Marriage

In honor of our 24th anniversary on September 24th, I’d like to share 24 secrets to a long and happy marriage.

24 Secrets to a Happy Marriage


  1. Consider each day together as a gift.
  2. Start the day with a walk and a talk.
  3. Listen.
  4. Mind your manners.  After 24 years, we still say please and thank you.
  5. Laugh often.
  6. He mows, I trim.  We each do our part and appreciate each other.
  7. Be honest but not hurtful.  No poison darts.
  8. Discuss your ideas.  After all this time we still haven’t run out of things to talk about.
  9. Encourage each other to dream and grow and even change.
  10. Difficult times and decisions are easier when you share your fears and are supportive.
  11. Plan together and look forward to shared experiences.
  12. Be here now and appreciate the moments that make up a marriage.
  13. Treat each other with respect and consideration.
  14. Take care of yourself and make healthy choices that promote wellbeing and positive energy.  It’s good for you and good for your relationships.
  15. Value individuality and a different perspective and realize that soul mates still have separate minds.
  16. It’s ok to disagree and even better to meet somewhere in the middle.
  17. Open your eyes and truly see the person your partner is and has become.
  18. Celebrate family as often as possible.
  19. Enjoy intimacy.
  20. Share plenty of time together but have some time apart.  It’s nice to miss each other.
  21. Find new interests and try something different.  Boredom is not sexy.
  22. I don’t call him at work and we don’t share a toothbrush.  Respect boundaries.
  23. Marriage is not ownership.  Consider it a partnership that you have to keep earning.
  24. Show and tell.  There are many ways to express your love (including blog posts); find them and use them.

24th anniversary


13 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. hugmamma
    Sep 23, 2012 @ 16:39:37

    Reblogged this on hugmamma's MIND, BODY and SOUL and commented:
    Married almost twice as long…I couldn’t have explained the “tricks of the trade” any better. See what you think…


  2. lautal
    Sep 23, 2012 @ 17:30:55

    What I can say, just agree after 35 years of happy marriage.


  3. sarahnsh
    Sep 24, 2012 @ 12:02:21

    I think these are all great ideas for a marriage and keeping it happy! I especially like number twelve but they are all great points to remember. 🙂


  4. Ave Valencia
    Sep 25, 2012 @ 00:08:38

    Thanks! We just had our 10th. I will stop using his toothbrush as of tonight.


  5. thinkingpink123
    Sep 28, 2012 @ 21:34:55

    you guys are so cute!! what an adorable couple…*sigh.


  6. puravida
    Sep 29, 2012 @ 05:45:39

    What a sweet thing to say! Thank you.


  7. bodhisattvaintraining
    Oct 13, 2012 @ 18:59:40

    What a gorgeous post – some great tips there for a happy marriage..but you guys don’t look old enough to have been married that long!! 🙂


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